Today I'm thinking about those uncomfortable experiences when we feel judged, or wary of being judged in the future, by someone whose opinion matters to us. Many times this is an internal fear, something that arises in our minds and convinces us that its truth. But where we assume wrong - and yes, this fear is an assumption - is thinking we know what others think about us. In reality, no matter what we do, we can never control anyone's thoughts about us, and nor should we try to. It's really none of our business! But we somehow believe that we know what someone else will think, and then respond to that assumption in our mind. You've started an internal conversation with yourself that has now has nothing to do with the other person! Our behavior follows our thoughts and my suggestion to you today is to see when you are falling into this mental trap.
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