Emotional Walls

"The walls we build around us to keep sadness out also keeps out the joy."

Goal Setting

"The major reason for setting a goal is for what it makes of you to accomplish it.   What it makes of you will always be the far greater value than what you get."

Jim Rohn

Forgive Yourself - Melody Beattie

Doesn't it feel good to forgive yourself?  You don't have to be afraid or reluctant to do that anymore.  Forgiving yourself doesn't mean that you are condemned.  It means you are setting yourself free.  

We can gather so much guilt as we go through life.  We may blame ourselves for the experiences we've had and how we've handled them.  We may build up resentments against ourselves.  We may even resist forgiving ourselves because we think that means saying we were bad or wrong.  But not forgiving ourselves when we need to often leads us to return to situations not healthy for us.  

Forgiving yourself means you can leave places that feel bad.  You can end relationships that no longer work, you can avoid situations that cause you continual pain and grief.  Forgiving yourself means you can stop punishing yourself for what you've done and what you think you've done wrong.  

-Journey to the Heart.

What's Your Handicap? - Melody Beattie

"What's your handicap?" the golfer asked his partner.  "My childhood" said his companion.

Some handicaps are physical, certain limitations placed on our bodies.  Others are emotional, burdens of heartache from sad or abusive childhoods.   Others may be dealing with a current issue - perhaps facing a terminal illness or grieving an irreparable loss.

After losing my son, I found myself at a point where I simply could no longer stand the agony of waiting for my pain to disappear.  I knew that all my life I would miss him, and I became absolutely despondent.  There is no way out of this, I thought. I'm spending my life waiting for this paint o disappear so I can begin living my life again.  But the pain never will disappear.  And I'll never begin living my life again.  That's when a gentle idea began to change my life.

I began to understand that I was living and working with a handicap.  The loss would always be there.  The pain and heartache would always be present.  I could accept that, treat it like a handicap, and within that framework go ahead and live my life once more.

Many of us are living with handicaps.  Some will change over time, but other's won't.  If that's the case, stop waiting for your handicap to disappear.  Instead, decide to live with it.  Work around it.  Treat yourself with care and gentleness.  Allow yourself to feel and experience all of the limitations and emotions of your present situation.  Accept them.  Let them be part of you, part of your experience.

-Journey to the Heart.

Blame

Any blame I feel about today's life events is a clear indicator that I am avoiding my own issues.

Feelings

'If you avoid any specific feeling long enough, it will come to dominate you.  You will be fearful and live your life as though there is some shark who is poised to attack.  Feel the feeling and that shark disappears.'

Self-Responsibility

'The ultimate in self-responsiblity: Wherever I am unhappy, there is where I need to change myself. Most of us blame others.'

Abundant Living IV

Commit to doing what you love! 

'Make a personal commitment to do what you love and love what you do!  Finding and creating your life's work will bring you more abundance than any other single action you take.'

Warmly,

Corinne

Abundant Living III

Network.

'Get into the networking habit.  Send out to others as gifts what you would like to share.  The more you give to others the more you contribute harmony to the world.  You will be shocked at how much more begins circulating back into your life.'

Warmly, 

Corinne 

Abundant Living II

Be Grateful...

'The first step toward abundance (and transcending scarcity thinking) is giving thanks for everything you are and everything you have.  Make a daily effort to being and focus on what abundance you already have, rather than what you are missing.  Have you started a gratitude journal yet? When you focus on all that you have, you will be using you thought to attract abundance.'

Warmly,

Corinne 

Abundant Living I

Acknowledge Your Beliefs!

'Examine the thoughts and beliefs that you practice and live in your daily life.  If they serve you, then by all means honor them.  Your current beliefs may not serve you.  For example, you may notice you are living a life of lack.  Have you thought this is because you are unlucky instead of recognizing that your belief system may be rooted in scarcity thinking?  If we live with a scarcity mentality, then that is what we will attract into our lives.  Acknowledge whatever beliefs you currently have, and commit to creating anew!'

Warmly,

Corinne

Detachment

Differentiate between the person and the problem!

Take care of yourself!

Admit that some things are beyond your control.

Change the things you can...

Model self-respect,

and enjoy one day at a time.

Warmly,

Corinne