Tuesday, December 31, 2013

Couples Counseling in Ft Lauderdale (33301 and 33308)

Your partner comes home from work late, makes a beeline for the liquor cabinet and then sulks off silently or sits in front of the tv for the rest of the night. You haven't had a conversation for weeks beyond figuring out what’s for dinner.  A few arguments over money or late nights out, sure, but no heart-to-hearts. Sex? What's that?
Your relationship is on the rocks, and you both know it. But you aren't sure how to fix things — or if you really want to.

Many couples seek therapy with a similar story.  It’s so easy for our communication to become laced with unspoken expectations and assumptions. Instead we often turn to avoidance, anger and even sadness.  But none of these approaches are going to heal the relationship, or get it moving forward again.

Couples therapy is the ideal forum to begin to shine a light on what is not being said between two people.  It’s also a perfect place to learn how to modify our language so that relationship static and retreat from each other are a thing of the past. 

With couples counseling you will learn about your emotional triggers, how to take the good and leave the bad in your personal reactions to stressful moments, build awareness of your own internal dialogue and see how this contributes to the dialogue you share as a couple.  The number one goal in all couples therapy is to stop the ‘blame’ game.  When each partner can see what they contribute to the conflict, and take responsibility for their role in maintaining the tension, the path is opened for learning and healing. 

-Dr. Corinne Scholtz, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, offers individual, family, couple and marital therapy for relationship challenges in the Downtown Ft. Lauderdale Fl 33301 area and surrounding neighborhoods.  

Tuesday, December 3, 2013

A Young Therapist's Journey - Part One

I started my journey as a therapist after learning about marriage counseling using Imago Therapy.  I was a senior in college, and very interested in romantic relationships and why some work and others not so much.  What I was about to learn changed my thoughts forever!

Imago Therapy is suitable for individuals and couples seeking greater awareness and understanding of themselves and each other.   It explores what it is we may be looking for in another that we aren't aware of…such cool stuff!  Imagine that each of us walk around with a 'blueprint' in our subconscious about the traits we are looking for in a romantic partner.  Part of what makes up our blueprint is our childhood experience with our most significant figures…usually parents and or guardians.  We internalize their positive and negative traits.  Not only that, but imago therapy investigates our core wounds … those places where we didn't get what we needed as young ones.  Acknowledging wounds isn't a bad thing.  In fact, imago takes it one step further and suggests that in our choice of romantic partner we are seeking to heal these wounds and look to our partner to provide this.

However, the tricky part - where therapy becomes most crucial - , is recognizing how and when our partner triggers our most vulnerable emotions, and instead of getting stuck in a reactive cycle with one another, use this as a path for healing.  It is thought that we will unconsciously attract the person who will most trigger us in order to provoke an opportunity for healing.  

Fascinating stuff, right?

-Dr. Corinne Scholtz offers family, couple and marital therapy for a variety of relationship challenges in the Ft. Lauderdale Fl 33301 area and surrounding neighborhoods.