Your partner comes home from work late, makes a beeline for the liquor cabinet and then sulks off silently or sits in front of the tv for the rest of the night. You haven't had a conversation for weeks beyond figuring out what’s for dinner. A few arguments over money or late nights out, sure, but no heart-to-hearts. Sex? What's that?
Your relationship is on the rocks, and you both know it. But you aren't sure how to fix things — or if you really want to.
Many couples seek therapy with a similar story. It’s so easy for our communication to become laced with unspoken expectations and assumptions. Instead we often turn to avoidance, anger and even sadness. But none of these approaches are going to heal the relationship, or get it moving forward again.
Couples therapy is the ideal forum to begin to shine a light on what is not being said between two people. It’s also a perfect place to learn how to modify our language so that relationship static and retreat from each other are a thing of the past.
With couples counseling you will learn about your emotional triggers, how to take the good and leave the bad in your personal reactions to stressful moments, build awareness of your own internal dialogue and see how this contributes to the dialogue you share as a couple. The number one goal in all couples therapy is to stop the ‘blame’ game. When each partner can see what they contribute to the conflict, and take responsibility for their role in maintaining the tension, the path is opened for learning and healing.
-Dr. Corinne Scholtz, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, offers individual, family, couple and marital therapy for relationship challenges in the Downtown Ft. Lauderdale Fl 33301 area and surrounding neighborhoods.