Why Marriage Counseling?

Take Advantage of Marriage Counseling in Ft. Lauderdale to Get that Spark Back!

If you have been noticing that you haven’t been yourself lately, maybe it is time to speak to someone about the issues you have going on in your life. At The Center of Connected Living, Dr. Corinne Scholtz can offer therapy services, such as bring your pet therapy, teen & adult therapy, and  marriage counseling in Ft. Lauderdale.  For most people who need help to get back up on their feet,  the first step is the most important one. So what is it that is dragging you down?

In this life, there are many reasons to get down on yourself. Reasons could include your job, spousal issues, losing a loved one, and the most hard to cope with–no reason at all. If you and your spouse feel like you have lost the spark and you want to get it back, our marriage counseling in Ft. Lauderdale is for you. We can help you heal past wounds that you may be holding against each other and help you to effectively communicate in a better and healthier way! There are a few different ways to receive marriage counseling: You can schedule your weekly appointment to be one 55 minute session or a 90 minute session. The 90 minute session is one that many couples go forward with, because it is much more extensive. It includes 30 minutes one-on-one time for each spouse and then 30 minutes together. 

Dr. Corinne Scholtz is a licensed marriage and family therapist in Ft. Lauderdale.  She specializes in couples counseling, family therapy, individual therapy and more.  She is a top-rated local therapist. 

Is your mind a mystery?

The Mystery of Our Minds

With a majority of my clients we examine thoughts, assumptions and beliefs that lead us to distress and pain.  We explore the nature of these thoughts in relationship, and how the way we experience ourselves and others is a reciprocal cycle ... We pull 'things' from our experience and relationships based on who we are and the lenses of thoughts/assumptions and and beliefs though which we understand our world.  The 'things' we pull often serve to validate and justify what it is we believe.  So you can see how about experiences and beliefs are intertwined.  Once we can clarify what our thoughts are, we can work on challenging their truthfulness, as not every thing we think is the truth!

"...the mind is the cause of both unhappiness and happiness ... If there is anything worth knowing it is the mind..." - Muktananda

Corinne is a licensed marriage and family therapist is private practice.  Among her specialities are depression, anxiety, affairs, communication, anger, premarital, teens, and more.  Her expertise is in exploring who we are in our relationships, while externalizing and changing relationship to that which plagues us.

When You're Down and Out

I've recently worked with parents who are feeling guilty for mistakes they've made in their lives, and the effects this has on their children.  Sometimes they've been incarcerated, divorced, in poverty, relying on substances and more.  Whatever the case may be, at one point or another we are all going to go through a down and out phase of life.  That's the nature of living.

What's most important and a great lesson to show kids is that no matter how bad it's been, you can choose to look forward and begin again.  Showing kids how to pick themselves up, heal the wounds of life, and forgive are life lessons that can't be learned intellectually, but through experience.  So, instead of living in a limited world of the past, look at what you have to be grateful for in this moment, and nurture the visions you have for your future.

- Dr. Corinne Scholtz in a licensed marriage and family therapist in private practice.  She works with pre-adolescent and adolescent children in Ft Lauderdale and the surrounding area.  Contact her for more information about how she works with kids at corinne.scholtz@connectedliving-fl.com

How many ways can you integrate an iPhone into therapy?!

How many ways can you integrate an iPhone into therapy?!

It turns out, several!  I have clients who download affirmations and receive mantras daily on their phones.  Other clients speak and record their own voice on the phone reminding them of their intention(s) and listen to it throughout the day and week.  I'm toying with the idea of integrating videoing into session with the client's consent of course…my idea is to record an argument or a conversation between the two - on one of their phones - and play it back in slower motion with them.  I've found in the past that if I can slow the pace of a conversation it's becomes really productive. 

Lately, a client described to me that one of her go-to coping skills for dealing with anxiety and worry is to call her mom.  She ends up calling her mom with all her concerns. This creates one version of her identity to her mom as a woman who is negative,  worried all the time, and fearful.  In reality, she admits she isn't these things all the time, but most of their conversations are filled with this type of content that it's no wonder her mom thinks this. 

She describes that as a child she would speak and sing into a recorder and listen to it back.  That's when we came up with an idea!  We would use her iPhone as her recorder, and instead of calling her mom to 'talk-it-out', she would record her thoughts and feelings.  Later, when she has a chance to take a step back, she is going to listen to her recording, and think about ways to respond as if it were her friend talking to her!  This addresses her need to talk, allows that conversation with her mom to evolve, and puts her in a empowered role of calming and reassuring herself. 

-Dr. Corinne Scholtz is one of Ft. Lauderdale's top-rated local marriage and family therapists. She specializes in marital therapy, couples counseling, individual concerns and more.   Corinne offers free phone consultations…contact her and get started today.

Acceptance = Growth

As many of you know, I've been on a yoga retreat in Costa Rica.  Part of the experience is a morning meditation, vinyasa hot yoga class, clean eating and body work.  What I'm working on is accepting.  Accepting what is in this moment, in contrast to wishing something was different, or 'better'.  The hardest things to accept in the moment are the areas where we most need to pay attention.  If we try to bypass the acceptance phase, we continue to fight internally with ourselves.  There's the saying 'what you resist will persist'.

In therapy I'm consciously aware of the moments when clients attempt to shift the conversation or avoid talking about the more uncomfortable, vulnerable areas of their lives and relationships.  This signals to me that this is where the real healing can begin.  My ultimate goal is to work at the clients pace, retaining the integrity of their process, and being 'present' as they work through their 'stuff''.  I think we should honor our 'stuff' because that's where compassion and empathy arise.  Once we can own our stuff it makes it easier for others to do the same.

For support and guidance contact me.  I offer a free 15-minute phone consultation. Or always feel free to email me.

-Dr. Corinne Scholtz is a licensed marriage and family therapist.  She is the owner of one of S. Florida's premier locations for optional mental and emotional health.  Her expertise is working with relationships - individual therapy, couples therapy, marital counseling, teen support and more. 

A New Response to Feeling Judged

Today I'm thinking about those uncomfortable experiences when we feel judged, or wary of being judged in the future, by someone whose opinion matters to us.   Many times this is an internal fear, something that arises in our minds and convinces us that its truth.  But where we assume wrong - and yes, this fear is an assumption - is thinking we know what others think about us.  In reality, no matter what we do, we can never control anyone's thoughts about us, and nor should we try to.  It's really none of our business!   But we somehow believe that we know what someone else will think, and then respond to that assumption in our mind.  You've started an internal conversation with yourself that has now has nothing to do with the other person!  Our behavior follows our thoughts and my suggestion to you today is to see when you are falling into this mental trap.

The Center of Connected Living is Ft Lauderdale's location for optimal mental and emotional health.  Dr Corinne Scholtz specializes in couples therapy, marital counseling, and individual issues.  Contact her now to learn more about dealing with feeling judged. 

Taking A Break From Yourself!

I'm on a yoga retreat this week in Costa Rica.  As a therapist it's so important to take care of your own mental, emotional and spiritual needs.  After all, you want the very best your therapist can give…and therapy is an intensely personal craft that takes care.

This morning I was taking pictures around the property of the spa where our group is staying.  There is an abundance of nature, sounds, scents and energy that I don't often find in Ft. Lauderdale.  In that moment I recognized that I can take a 'break' from myself!  My routine, normal way of going about things, but more importantly my thinking about things.  This week I'm going to challenge myself to see what I can let go of, what no longer serves me.  The only thing we have control over is our own thinking…I extend my challenge to you this week.  No matter what's facing you or what lies ahead, try playing around with your thinking about the problem.  Sometimes a change in perspective and attitude is all we need.  Curious about getting guidance for this task - contact me now via email and I'll share more ideas.

- Dr Corinne Scholtz specializes in marriage and family therapy in and around the Ft Lauderdale area. She is a top-rated local therapist and works with a wide variety of concerns and problems facing couples and individuals.